Dan about Thailand is all about sharing experiences from myself and others with regards to Thailand. I am delighted to have been sent an article from Scott Mackay who wanted to share the experience of relocating his Thai wife back to Scotland. What is particularly interesting is how his Thai wife adjusted and accommodated the shift from the ‘Land of Smiles’ to an altogether chillier environment of Scotland.
“My wife Kanda and I married in Thailand on the 17th of January 2017. At the time it was pretty much a secret as I knew exactly what would be said by people who didn’t know her. Sure enough, when we started telling people all I got was “be careful”, “are you sure it was a good idea”, “they are all the same”.
Are all Thai woman the same? What does it mean exactly? Are all British woman the same? It really annoys me when people stereotype when they don’t know the person personally.
I will admit, I was nervous, however I think I would have been exactly the same if I had married someone from my home town. I knew she wasn’t with me for my money. We had been seeing each other for 3 years prior to getting married and I was only able to give her very limited money due to having my own mortgage etc to pay for in Scotland. The subject of a dowry was brought up prior to marriage, however the figures her family were looking for just wasn’t possible. I remember my wife saying at that time, “I will give them when I start working”. I was more than content she was with me for the right reasons.
Moving to Scotland wasn’t without it’s challenges
We applied and were successful in getting a spouse visa and Kanda moved to Scotland in March 2017. She settled in very quickly although it didn’t come without its challenges.
The hardest thing without doubt is the food. She misses Thai food so much. We live in the North East of Scotland so it’s probably a lot easier if you are in central London but finding real Thai food is a challenge. A lot of the so called Thai restaurants are run by Indians who don’t produce genuine Thai food. She doesn’t enjoy Haggis and Irn Bru, which I still can’t believe if I’m being honest. We don’t argue a lot but if we do it’s normally about food. At times I think she is being unreasonable. At times when eating in good quality restaurants she will come out with statements like “I feel nothing”. If she doesn’t get her daily fix of rice, quite often I will hear “no rice no life”. As funny as it sounds it gives an insight into how important Thai food is for a Thai national.
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