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Marrying a “rich” westerner may not be a “dream come true” – says BBC.

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Marrying a “rich” westerner may not be a “dream come true” – says BBC.

The BBC Thai service has produced a wide ranging documentary feature
and video that looks into the increasingly prevalent trend for
westerners to marry Thai women.

In one small town in Isaan – Thailand’s north east – they found nearly
100 families in the same boat: coming to terms with what it means
having a son-in-law from the west.

And they found it was not just the financial advantages for families
that this often brings – but could cause cultural difficulties and
misunderstandings.

The BBC spoke to a Khon Kaen university professor who is trying to
educate rural north easterners in what to expect when their daughter
“marries a farang”.

Writing on the BBC website reporter Nanchanok Wongsamut said these
days it was a dream come true for many Thais to marry a foreigner.

But it was not always a bed of roses – despite the cash windfall many
experience.

She spoke to many people in the town of Phu Wiang in Khon Kaen after
nearly 100 families from there attended a course set up by Dr Dusadee
Ayuwat.

One was typical of many – Sumet Somwang just had a regular rundown
wooden house four years ago.

That was before her 36 year old daughter married a 60 year old Swiss man.

Now they have a solid cement, four bedroom home that is the envy of
jealous neighbors.

The house has all the mod cons – air-conditioning throughout, hot
water, Western loos, microwave, stove, washing machine…and of course
the large flat screen TV.

“My son-in-law said he wanted me and my husband to be comfortable,”
said Sumet, 54. “He has done everything for us including a thorough
refurbishment on the house”.

She was speaking to the BBC as further improvements were being done to
the fence surrounding the property.

According to the happy mother-in-law the Swiss man sends her 10 to
20,000 baht per month. This is in addition to the money he gives to
their daughter aged 36.

Sumet is still working making cloth but said that neighbors were
wondering why she bothered after they said her daughter had been so
lucky.

“They look at us and are envious”, she said.

Dr Dusadee said that it is understandable that many people see
marrying a westerner as a chance for the whole family to escape
poverty – but it is not just that. Many face a lot of cultural
difficulties coming to terms with having a farang in the family.

She is targeting rural communities in her work to bring more understanding.

The BBC reported that the days of being suspicious of foreigners
marrying Thai women were coming to an end.

They cited the name of a woman from literature – “Bunrort” – who
famously was believed to be unhappy through marrying a foreigner.

Many used to believe that girls who married foreigners were simply no good.

This is not the case anymore, with even rural people accepting the
situation, and actively encouraging it.

Dr Dusadee said there were no official statistics to show how many
Thais were tying the knot with foreigners.

But she explained that in her study of 320 Thai women who did marry
them, she discovered some interesting details.

Of those 320 one in three or more than 30% were previously married to
Thais and had divorced or separated and often had children from that
previous relationship.

So much so that these days there is even pressure from Thai parents
and families to find a westerner after Thai relationships went sour.

But as Dr Dusadee’s course points out to those clamoring for their
daughters to “go west” the cultural difficulties make it unlikely to
be the bed of roses that many assume will be the case.

This fact she and her team try to explain in their course to bring
greater understanding to the Thais.

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